Chris Brown & Lena Dunham: This is Our Youth

Okay so it is 3:12am and I just finished watching a #MentorMonday webinar featuring one of the top bloggers in the WORLD Luuvie. If you want to hoot and holler go visit her page here.


I feel like every time I leave America for a short while the country blows up with celebrity madness and because of the time zone difference I am always late to the party.


Let’s talk about the Chris Brown situation first. For those who are living under a rock, or who were born before 1962. Chris Brown is a pop singer and most infamously known for a domestic violence brawl he had with his ex- girlfriend Rihanna.

Okay- so on this television program called “The Real” (which by the way is this a real show or is this a Halloween special?I’m not quite sure. Like, what channel does this show come on? Is it after hours on PBS? I’m unclear? )

Tamar Braxton and Adrienne Bailon made some comments about his current relationship to Ms. Karrueche Tran.

Now Chris Brown was clearly not pleased with what these ladies had to say about him. So he backfired on Instagram saying some extra rude phrases.

BRING THAT ASS HERE BOY” ADRIENNE BAILON…. You ole trout mouth ass b—-. U tried it. Won’t u the same b—- that was f—-ing wit married men? U also was keeping up with the Kardashians! U can’t talk about relationship goals when u don’t even have life goals. Ain’t you a cheetah girl? Last time u was important n—– was riding spinners and wearing 6x talk Ts. You the same b—- having threesomes like the rest of these h—. U tried it too Tamara Braxton. U take the role of the ugly sister. It’s always the people wit no career that talk all the shit. Dat plastic surgery fucked yo face up. B—- look like she always saying “huh”? Muppet face a–! #basicb—-problems #thotiannas I don’t even need a photo for Tamar, that b—- is beat in every photo! #icanmakeabrokeb—-richbutidontf—witbrokeb—-es” – Chris Brown via Instagram

Now to all of my friends that know me well, know that Chris Brown absolutely, positively, frightens me to the bones. If I saw Chris Brown in the street I would have to find a Walgreens and purchase two bags of Depends! If I were to ever be famous and Chris Brown were to ask me to dance, I would LITERALLY have to ingest 18 million shots of tequila in fear that he would grab my non-existant hips too tight.

The shade is- I have seen this man in concert with my mom before the Rihanna incident, when he was just a kid (he had no tattoos), and he was a PHENOMENAL PERFORMER. No one can take that from him.  But Chris Brown cussed these ladies out like they were some scallywags on Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn trynna fight over the last beef patty!

I didn’t write this blog entry to talk about online bullying or how “troubled” Chris Brown may be. Or even the fact that he epically shades Tamar Braxton for her plastic surgery and calls the poor girl from Cheetah Girls a “trout mouth.”

I am writing this entry, because he absolutely, positively makes me laugh out loud.Is he disrespectful? ABSOLUTELY! He has always been disrespectful, why is ANYONE SURPRISED? But, both parties are in the wrong. If you are going to gossip about someone be prepared to hear some feedback.

Chris Brown is that friend who could care less about his life as well as yours. He is the friend we are afraid to go anywhere with in fear that he would get us arrested for public indecency. We #TurnUp to some of his pre/post Rihanna albums. We try to hate him, but when the beat drops at a party we dance without fail.

The way he QUEENED OUT on these two ladies for talking ish about him literally made me feel like I was back in the Village, during PRIDE!

But we will continue to pray for Chris Brown, Tamar Braxton and the Cheetah Girl from that movie. To all of the following I say “This Too Shall Pass” all of y’all are a hot mess.

Lena Dunham

Now I have taken into account all of the e-mails that I have received and comments.

So in Lena Dunham’s new book Not That Kind of Girl she talks about a lot of STUFF. But today it became a HUGE HOOP-LA when Ms. Dunham was roasted for sexually experimenting with her younger sister Grace.

[Lena Dunham] attempted to persuade to kiss [Grace] using “anything a sexual predator might do.” In one particularly unsettling passage, Dunham experimented with her six-year younger sister’s vagina. “This was within the spectrum of things I did,” she writes. In the collection of nonfiction personal accounts, Dunham describes using her little sister at times essentially as a sexual outlet, bribing her to kiss her for prolonged periods and even masturbating while she is in the bed beside her. – Bradford Thomas @ Truth Revolt


So here is why I am conflicted. Lena is someone I have wanted to interview for a couple of years now. She is the Golden Girl of American TV. She is a powerhouse television writer, producer and actress. She is very conscious and has fought against negative body image in the media. But, when reading this article this morning, my mouth is still slightly agape.

As one of my readers said today:

I feel like this is a very touchy subject, that has been brought on by both a poor choice of words on Dunham’s part ( really?! Jokingly comparing yourself to a sexual predator?!) and an ultra conservative magazine that always tries to stir fires.)- John

Who compares themselves to sexual predators? When did sexual predators become funny? I’m not sure. I have to read this book for myself. A lot of people on social media have been saying that it is normal for kids to explore. But my question is when does exploration become something else? I am just left still in shock and am not really quite sure what to say.Fill in my blanks for me!  I’ll put my British hat on and say- I think it’s definitely an odd thing to share in a book. Or as my grandma say: “keep yuh business inna yuh house!”

This Is Our Youth People! We are no longer in the generation of Disco, Vietnam and Flower Power.  No longer in the era of corsets and Victorian petticoats. We have shifted into Generation Facebook, Over sharing and a fear of Face to Face communication. We are all walking around wearing Spanx and trying to breathe out our Caramel Macchiato for the day. Where fights take place on social media rather than in the streets and where jokes about being a sexual predator are supposed to make us laugh.

I wish sometimes I could be in a time capsule, and go back in time. The time before laptops and smartphones. The time before IPADS and smart cars. But, then I remember I am a black girl living in America, and I would definitely never want to be going too far back in time. #shame

What is everyone’s take on this madness?

I’m going to sleep it’s now 4:49am!

Leave a comment and let me know!

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  1. The problem with those Lena Dunham commentaries is those quotes were lifted out of context from the book. I read the whole page online from where they had pulled that “sexual predator” line and it was actually much more innocent than everyone is saying.


  2. Whooooo chile! They won’t leave Chris alone! The Real?? (I too am out of the loop with when THIS show came to be and where 😞) Stay out his business or you handle the kickback.
    I LOVE Lena. I bought the book. Haven’t started reading yet but I knew she would bare all. Honesty, unadulterated honesty can come at a cost. I had cousins who did that to me. It does happen with children. Poor words, sure. I don’t respect or like her any less for her retrospective opinion about her behavior. She probably hates that she did that therefore comparing it with something she hates (sexual predator)
    Looking forward to the read.


  3. Interesting. Chris Brown is just a nutter. The Lena Dunham thing, I think Roxane Gay has said the most sensible thing about it, which was – yes it’s disturbing, but kids do weird shit, and it’s wrong to turn someone else (ie Lena’s sister Grace) into a victim when that isn’t how they feel. I read the book and I honestly didn’t read that part as child abuse at all. It was uncomfortable reading and like you said, weird to share, but that’s kind of her MO and the whole book has uncomfortable stuff in it.


    • Camilla I completely understand. But for Lena to compare herself to a sexual predator is not funny to me. I read uncomfortable books/plays all the time that are poignant, weird, gross and brilliant all at once. Read Meaty by Samantha Irby. It is phenomenally vulgar and so on point!
      I have interviewed people who are survivors of child abuse. I get it. I understand. I am familiar with uncomfortable in all spectrums of the word.

      If this was said this out loud in a comedy set, maybe people might understand it more. MIGHT is the operative. Because this passage is in written text people can take it however they want. As a comedic actress I understand where she wanted the readers to laugh, but as a person also who has been sexual abused by a woman when I was a child- who was only a few years older than me- …I am still left with a bad taste in mouth.

      I know Lena’s humour is to over share and to serve the uncomfortable on a platter. It was one of the reason I supported her to begin with. She got naked on tv as a plus size woman and gave the middle finger to anyone who didn’t see her as beautiful. But, this passage, as well as the passage where she talks about masterbating next to her sister…don’t make me uncomfortable they just make me wonder where the parents were. I understand she wants to give us a glimpse into her family life, but I REFUSE to say because Lena is weird that is her MO.

      If this was a man- or even a black man or man of color, or even any minority female- she wouldn’t be roasted she would be in court immediately for child endangerment. That is just the world we live in. Trust me.

      She is raising eyebrows, people are buying her book and all will be great in the world. This is fame. I hope her career can bounce back from this, because I do continue to wish her the best. I ordered the book last night to read it in it’s entirety and hope her tv show does not suffer because of the book.


      • I actually think if she was a guy and she talked about being little and looking at another boys willy there would be a lot less furore. There’s nothing funny about sexual abuse and I think she’s certainly guilty of using a poor choice of words, but to label it child abuse just doesn’t seem right to me. And although she’s a white privelaged woman, she does have a lot of people out there who hate her, especially the right wing media, which is where this story started.

        I’d certainly recommend reading the book. I think context is important in this case.

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      • Thank you Camilla for reading and contributing! Very grateful. I hope one day I can still interview her after all of this settles!


  4. Regina whitehead-Mays November 4, 2014 — 7:04 am

    Where do I start… Hmmm… Well Chris Brown is hurting simple! the only time you see somebody lash out like that is when they’re hurt and can’t take responsibility for their actions. The Media has it out for him. Don’t get me wrong domestic abuse is horrible. I think he should just chill relax and ignore. He needs to use his God given gifts and find peace. I have to mention while I don’t agree with domestic abuse the woman I once was was very verbally and physically abusive to men….My mother told me on several occasions don’t put my hands on anyone or they might put their hands on me!…..Lena K…. Soo….. I read the excerpt about her looking in Grace’s vagina and my first thought was did the mother sit down and tell her NOT TO DO THAT?!?!. Okay kids are curious and experimental but her descriptions and her comparison of that of a Child Molester is disturbing. Comics get a right of passage to put a funny spin on serious situations or make light of them or are even given a pass on joking about sensitive issues and I get that but some things you just don’t let the WORLD know about!


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