YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH

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I came across this quote walking towards the direction of my apartment in Chicago. “You are  more than enough” it rang so true to me that day. It was a much needed reminder of why I created and am working on The Body Image Project. I want women and men to know that they are more than enough. I want to believe this myself!

This entry has been on my heart for the past month and I have been absolutely terrified to write it. I have reached a major one month plateau in my weight loss journey. As most of you know, since February, I have lost 30 pounds. June and most of July have been getting on my nerves, because I have stayed at the same weight for about six weeks now. Plateau’s can be   okay.

When I started my weight loss journey, I wasn’t losing weight to be cute or to wear things with backs out and cleavage- although, now that I think about it, that may be a little cute : )

I really wanted to take command of my life. I am getting married in 24 days and I want to walk down the aisle, not as a “skinny” bride, but as a bride that is confident and glowing. When I gained 100 pounds, it was due to depression and now losing this weight is not about physical appearance, it’s about losing baggage that has held me down for so many years. It is about my own transformation from collegiate years into the real world. It is about me. Only me and no one else. Gone are the days of losing weight for other people. Gone are the days of wallowing and consuming everything under the sun. 

In early January I went on the scale and saw the weight 250. That 250 pounds means so much to me. It reminds me of the baggage I carry of people who do not deserve my time of day. I am not saying being this weight is bad or good, but for me, personally I did not feel comfortable in my own skin anymore- I felt like my body belonged to my past. Now I have maintained a whopping 220-221. Which is progress, but I have never seen anything lower than this number since I was a freshman in college. 

Now a lot of you may be shocked and surprised that I put my weight on the internet. I am sure some of my ex-boyfriends who may be reading this post are freaking out. HAHA. SURPRISE! Who cares. People do far crazier things online and in the world! I just hope to inspire someone to know that if you are on any kind of journey try your best to love yourself through the good times and the plateau times. 

I read a blog this morning and the girl was talking about her obsession with the scale. I definitely understand this. There was a time when I would weigh myself twice a day. I could look at myself in the mirror and know exactly how much weight I was for that day. It was crazy. When I look in the mirror, although I am growing in my body image journey, sometimes I wish I could see myself through other people’s eyes. I wish that I could see what my fiance sees. I wish I could see what my best friends see of me. But, sometimes when I look in the mirror, I see myself through a pair of judgemental eyes. I see myself through the eyes of everyone who has ever said anything mean or crazy to me. I can’t wait for the day when I can see myself as God sees me. I can’t wait for the day to take off my rose coloured  sunglasses and see myself as a Queen. Progress is key. Journey is life. Plateau’s are patient.

Let me tell you something, the numbers on a scale should not determine your inner peace. Numbers on a scale do not determine self worth. Numbers on a scale do not determine your beauty. Say this to yourselves everyday until you truly believe it.  

I was talking to my fiance recently, and was sad when I came home and saw the scale reading the same number. He said simply “At least you didn’t gain.” Plateau’s are a great lesson in patience.

The thing about this man, I am marrying, is that regardless of what I look, feel, or act like he still loves me. Which, to be honest, still trips me up. I have never experienced unconditional love from another human being other than like, my mom and grandmas. His love for me has allowed me to look inwards to try to muster up a little more love for myself. It’s hard! It really is, especially when you may not be confident or feel beautiful all the time. But, loving yourself whether you gain, lose, plateau is the key to moving forward. I know when I walk down the aisle whether at 220 or 200 that I will be walking into a future with someone who truly appreciates me for my flaws.

You may be going through a plateau in your career, or with school, or financially. Just know, to continue what you are doing and to focus in, because the change will happen. Keep it moving. Let’s move past our plateau’s this week and walk confidently together to a new dream. You are more than enough, act like it! Be it! Live it!

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Danielle

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  1. “Just because I have 70,000 thoughts a day, doesn’t mean most of them are real, beneficial, or supportive. In fact, most aren’t. And as we listen to the damaging noise in our left brains, we create unseen roadblocks on the paths we really want to be walking.”

    A snippet from an article by Anthony Meindl. This idea that thoughts are these intangible things that we actually have the power to believe or throw away to guide and to create has been on my mind today and seems to really relate to your post.

    Sometimes it seems like a battle between in and out. Balancing what people think of you – the negative feedback AND the positive – and what you think of, or think you should think of yourself. The constant back and forth, measuring up to this person or that creates such a headache and makes the true, beautiful picture of who you are more and more blurry (or at least this is what I’ve experienced).

    You are so AMAZING!!! ❤ ❤ ❤ always to you, your art, and the heartbeat of your being 🙂

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  2. I am continually moved by all of your blog posts. Extremely insightful, honest, and completely relatable. I am constantly thinking I am not enough because of me being overweight. I hate that because of my physical medical issues and depression/mania that I have gained over 80 pounds in just a few years. I am not my “normal” size, and that kills me. But I am trying to take one day at a time, and have the same confident, inspiring, and positive outlook you try to maintain every day. Thank you so much for this.

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  3. Yes, yes, yes. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, about the stagnant time in development. We always want constant change, and fast, but we have to allow things to progress at the rate they are meant to.

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  4. Its quite amazing how a small phrase “you are more than enough” can enlighten your day. In my life right now I am experiencing a sort of “body awakening” that is allowing me for the first time in my life to look at myself and say “ROCK ON GIRL”. Im experiencing a life and body transformation that finally is all about me. Not about what people think of me, not about what they like, not about what they think is the best thing for me, but about WHAT I WANT and believe.Its time for me to break loose and have some fun in my own skin! 😉 For years I allowed others thoughts and judgements of me to run my life and that day is far gone. I will live my life for me. Full of love for myself and my everchanging body. I encourage all people to live moment to moment, day to day, and really revel in the love and hotness that is your body! Walk around with that badge of confidence and know that it will shine through your heart and coat your entire body! If someone compliments you simply say thank you and keep moving because you DESERVE THE COMPLIMENT. (im still learning that rule as well) LIVE boldly. LIVE Freely. LOVE yourself. Respect yourself. And no matter what anyone says you are a beautiful creature no matter what a stupid scale says. Great Post. Continue to spread the awareness all! I know I will.

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  5. I too, needed this message today my girlfriend. Thank you sincerely for taking the time to write and share. You know I echo so much of your sentiment, especially about viewing my extra weight as emotional baggage and just wanting to feel free of it all on my wedding day, a personal gift to me.
    As for your plateau, my dear, the best way to bust one of those is to switch it up! Seriously, go out and do something physical that you’ve never done before or that isn’t part of your work out routine, – row a boat, in-door rock climbing, laser tag, go for a hike, ride a bike, just pick some random work-out class…that seriously could do the trick!!!

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  6. Thank you for this Danielle! Definitely needed to read this today. Somehow your blogs always land at the right time with the right message. Spooky! Love you and can’t wait to see you soon, no matter what size you are, I’m looking forward to seeing your big smile!!! Xxxxxxx

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  7. bodyimageprojectblog July 16, 2013 — 4:29 pm

    thank you so much Alex! Please share the blog entry with friends or family that may need a little encouragement. Wishing you the best blessings!

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  8. First of all, you’re absolutely gorgeous. Secondly, to avoid that scale addiction, I decided to measure my weight loss by pant sizes. I get so excited when a specific pair of pants is a little more baggy than they were the week before, or when a pair of pants that are too small go two inches higher on my thighs than last week. 🙂 As long as you learn to love you, how could the rest of us not?! Regardless of size or whatever. What you’re doing is amazing and inspiring. ❤ you

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